This is why you’re unable to succeed

Follow these tips for a successful outcome

I know 99 languages, but 1.

Oh! that my friend is persuasion. It speaks the language of ‘what’s in it for me?’. The words unsaid, expressions held back; I could have won that bet. From frantic study of psychology, I’ve learned that in human biology personal interests are core objectives. From food, sleep, or success human wants are riddled with self-satisfaction.

What about me?

Ever heard that from a child, they are most honest of all. Every being shares this sentiment naturally at an almost sub-conscious level. Much like expecting your drink at Starbucks but realizing it’s some other’s turn. Isn’t that an instant turn-off in dating when you don’t meet your partner’s expectations. Or, the disappointment when the service we receive is not up to standards. Whatever circumstance it may be, self-interests are always paramount. Heck, even in religion; every person wants to go to paradise. It is established that people want what they want, and there is no need to ‘beat around the bush’.

Rub my hands, I rub yours.

You give them what they want, if you want what you want. I you worry about self-interests, know that they too. Access their motives and identify their prize.

“If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own”. said Henry Ford.

It would tell you how to rub their hands, and that is the right approach to persuasion.

That’s not how it’s done.

I know, I know that you know better how stuff is done, but if you’re trying to get my favor and also adamant to prove me wrong then this is not ending your way. Not to say that you flatter me with wrong affirmations but either stop with the criticism or you go your way, and I go mine.

Dead face utters dead words.

This is human and every person deserves it. I see some grumpy people who spew foul words & wear a hateful expression. You’re as good as your manners and everything matters when communicating with someone. Keep a smile, wear positivity and altruism; there is no reason someone will criticize, if not accept your proposal.

Altruism matters.

As established, you need to know the other party’s interests in the matter. What do they desire to get out of this? Come to common terms and explore the reasoning behind the dissimilarities. Then invent solutions that can alleviate dissimilarities. The idea is to match the frequency of both parties so that they propel to a YES.

The role of knowledge.

It is a medieval art, carried to current times. Knowledge has set a high bar for advancement in all times. But, acquiring it is an art that demands focus. My favorite mode of increasing knowledge is reading. The more you read — more clearer your vision becomes.

Originally published at https://aimmaz.com on April 21, 2022.